Takeaway: Pain is the major reason people don't do more butt stuff. Fortunately, it's often avoidable. What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness?
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Of all the sex acts out there you can try, anal sex comes with some of the most vicious rumors. I don't just mean the rumor that everyone said Stephanie from high school was doing it, or the weird, creeping thought that all your friends are secretly doing it behind your back pun intended. I mean the rumor that it's always painful, but if you want to try it, you just sort of have to put up with it and dive into butt stuff, head- or I guess ass- first. And then you just deal with all the insane injuries that happen later. Some good news though. Just like it's probably not true that Stephanie was having it with Todd in sixth grade or whatever, it's also not true that anal sex has to hurt or be dangerous, at all. In fact, like all other sex things, it shouldn't hurt, so long as you're properly prepared. Or, more accurately, it shouldn't hurt.
As more couples explore this type of sex, understanding the risks, rewards, and proper strategy is important. According to the Centers for Disease Control CDC , anal sex is primarily growing in popularity with couples under age You might think of anal sex as anal penetration with a penis, but you have a few more options. Anal sex can also be performed with fingers or the tongue. Sex toys , like vibrators , dildos , and butt plugs , are used too. It just requires more planning, prep, and communication than some other forms of sexual activity. Safety during sex should be a top priority, but having fun is certainly important, too. Keep reading to learn more.