Science is currently trying to figure out why so-called prostate orgasms feel so intense—but, frankly, the why is unimportant. So, I talked with Sex and Relationships coach Dr. Charlie Glickman, PhD, who literally wrote the book on prostate pleasure to explain just how to enjoy this under-appreciated erogenous zone. Glickman's first point? Plus, porn stars are people who are likely having anal sex multiple times a week. For the best chance at a life-changing, earth-quaking orgasm, he also recommends—seriously, listen to this—experimenting with butt play solo at first.
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Relationships, like produce, milk and reality television stars, have a shelf life. Most couples find that after a few weeks, months, or years, the luster fades and the initial carnal fury that brought them together has dissipated. The moldy codgers who get past this sexual brick wall do so by developing an elaborate series of coping mechanisms. Infidelity is common in scenarios where one or both sexual partners become fed up with plain vanilla missionary. Sometimes, the couple just resigns themselves to erotic entropy, and embraces a sort of marital celibacy typified by the nightly ritual of 'reading magazines' or 'checking the scores on ESPN.
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Why do men love anal sex? Every guy I've dated has requested anal at some point, even to the point of begging. This experience seems to be ubiquitous in heterosexual relationships. What's the big deal? Does anal really feel that much better than vaginal sex? Or is it about the feeling of dominance, more than anything else? I decided to find out. The topic of the male obsession with anal is treated as somewhat of a joke in popular culture. It was even referenced to much controversy in an episode of The Mindy Project , when Mindy's boyfriend Danny attempted anal without her permission and then innocently claimed, "I slipped.
According to one study , 45 percent of men surveyed wished they had a larger penis. Another study found that 25 percent of men have faked an orgasm. Having an orgasm and ejaculating are two separate things, although they usually occur together. The belief that anal stimulation can and should only appeal to homosexual men can cause insecurity, leaving heterosexual men embarrassed to admit their preferences. The same is true of women—obsessing over whether you will get aroused enough, or be able to come, serves to prevent the response you want. Being more attuned to sensation, not less, can lead to greater awareness of the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. No pill or lotion has been proven to work, and some may even be harmful. Vacuum pumps draw blood into the penis and make it swell, but using them too often or too long can damage the elastic tissue in the penis and lead to less firm erections. One study even found that women preferred greater girth over length for one-time sex partners and although women were found to prefer penises that were about 6. According to the first systematic review of penis size measurement, the average length of an erect penis is 5.